Couples Therapy

I support couples in learning how to listen and communicate in honest and effective ways that foster deeper connection, intimacy, and passion. My approach aims to helps couples learn how to be there for one another in a way that feels good to BOTH of you rather than one partner getting their needs met at the expense of the other. Healthy relationship are NOT defined by having no issues/fights (which is impossible) but rather by learning how to have honest conversion. I will help each of you learn how how to really listen and understand what you partner is needing and  how to track and advocate for your own needs.

 

  Couples I work with:

  •  Communication Skills
  •  Multicultural Issues
  •  Infidelity 
  •  Sex and Intimacy
  •  Conflict Avoidant
  •  Co-dependancy
  •  LGBTQ
  •  Substance Abuse
  •  Parrenting
  •  Trauma

How I work:

I have an integrative approach that utilizes multiple modalities: Emotional Focused Therapy (EFT), Psychobiological approach (PACT), AEDP, IFS, Experiential therapy, Systems theory, and Psychodynamic work. My integrative approach will help you to authentically navigate obstacles in a way that feels good to both of you, deepen intimacy and trust, and be in relationship with passion.

While tradition couples therapy focuses on solutions research has show this approach is limiting and short lasting. Rather than focus on content of arguments, which most couples already know how to do quite well, I focus on whats underneath the content in the hidden currents that consciously and unconciously drive conflict or lack of conflict. Focusing on the undercounts and the "how you fight" rather then the content of "why you fight" we will  illuminate the blind spots, fears, and old relational wounding, that keep you stuck cycling in relational impasses.  

Lastly understanding you and your partners attachment styles is like having the a manual to how your partner operates. Understanding each others "operation manual"  will support you to better understand how to take care of each other when things get stressful rather than push each others buttons or avoid the issue. When you understand each others operation manual you both will be able to have productive conflict, experience deeper trust, and strengthened love and passion for each other.