Couples Therapy

I support couples in learning how to listen and communicate in honest and effective ways that foster deeper connection, intimacy, and healing. If you and your partner are navigating intimacy issues, infidelity, unfulfillment, doubt, or something else, understanding yourselves and each other is crucial for moving forward in a meaningful way. My approach aims to help couples learn how to be there for one another in a way that feels good to both of you. Healthy relationships are not defined by having no issues or fights, but rather by learning how to have honest conversions that foster understanding rather than shame, blame or avoidance. I will help each of you learn how how to really listen and understand what you partner is needing, how to track and advocate for your own needs, and how to stay present in difficult conversations.

 

  Couples therapy can include:

  • Communication Skills

  • Multicultural Issues

  • Infidelity

  • Sex and Intimacy

  • Conflict

  • Co-dependency

  • LGBTQ

  • Substance Abuse

  • Parenting

  • Trauma

How I work:

I have an integrative approach that utilizes multiple modalities: Emotional Focused Therapy (EFT), Psychobiological approach (PACT), AEDP, IFS, Systems theory, and Psychodynamic work. My integrative approach will help you to authentically navigate obstacles in a way that feels good to both of you, deepen intimacy and trust, and be in relationship with passion.

While traditional couples therapy focuses on solutions, research has shown that this approach is limiting and short lasting. Rather than focus on content of arguments, which most couples already default to, I focus on what is underneath the content in the hidden currents that consciously and unconsciously drive conflict or lack of conflict. By focusing on the undercurrents and the "how you fight" rather than the content of "why you fight," we will  illuminate the blind spots, fears, and old relational wounding that keep you stuck cycling in relational impasses.  

I help couples understand each other’s attachment styles, which is like having the manual to how your partner operates. Knowing how each partner operates will build understanding and give you a map of how to take care of each other when things are stressful, rather than push each other’s buttons or avoid issues. Having the “map” of how you each operate will deepen empathy and connection, develop effective communication and healthy conflict, and strengthen love and passion for one another.